
So I'm having a conversation about using gender-neutral language in church, and an acquaintance - a woman - injects this comment:
God is a man. And if he's not a man, well he's sure not a woman.
Props to me: I didn't bite through my tongue.
I consoled myself with the thought that this isn't often an explicit theology: most conservative Christian churches probably hold that God is neither exclusively male nor exclusively female. The problem this presents is that the language most of these churches use to refer to God is exclusively male. And language matters. Because our language is currently at odds with our theology, we need to change one or the other.
One of the objections I hear for changing from masculine language is, "what are you going to use instead?" Specifically, the questioner usually wants to know what I am going to use as the singular pronoun when referring to God. So in a sentence like this:
God is good, and he wants us to be good.
they want to know, what am I going to use to replace "he?"
At first glance, this is a significant problem, because the English language has no gender-neutral singular personal pronoun.
"She" is not a good alternative, because it causes the same problems as "he". (Although one could argue for a sort of linguistic affirmative action, wherein we should call God "she" for the next several thousand years to make up for always having called God "he" before.)
Likewise, "it" is out of the question, because most of these people believe in a personal God, and calling a person "it" is degrading. (Although one could argue that calling a person "she" is also degrading.)
But the obvious answer, which sometimes gets overlooked, is: don't use a pronoun.
God is good, and God wants us to be good
Problem solved.
But won't this be cumbersome? Won't it sound really awkward?
Well, do the things said about God on this blog sound awkward? Because this is the language I already use, both in writing and speaking. It's what I've done for several years. And to my knowledge,
nobody's noticed.
Sadly, this doesn't entirely solve our language problems, and here are two reasons:
1. Songs. It's hard to change them to be gender neutral, and not butcher them. (Gender-equal, maybe, but not gender neutral.) I'm sure you could come up with many more examples, but how would you reword these songs:
Dear Lord and Father of mankind
Forgive our foolish ways...
O worship the King
All glorious above
And gratefully sing
His wonderful love...
2. Gender-neutral language may not go far enough. Exploring God in the context of ideas that we have traditionally labeled "female" could be very powerful, but this is stymied somewhat by going to gender neutrality. In more conservative churches, though, going to even occasionally female language would be even harder than going to neutral language ... as you can see by the quote at the top of this post.